12 Things I Love About My Girlfriend

There's so much I like about my girlfriend, but since I like to make a list out of those, let me tell you the top 12 that I truly love about Kakat. :)

12. She supports my hobby

I have a hobby which some might find too childish. I'm into model kits - figures made out of small plastic pieces. It's something that I wanted to do ever since I'm a little kid, and now I have the money to finally realize my dream of building and customizing kits.

Most women are turned off by this hobby. I have a share of female friends who just couldn't appreciate the hobby. It's understandable - it's all about robots after all. My girlfriend is among those girls who doesn't "get" the mecha craze, but what's totally awesome is that she doesn't let her opinions about it get in the way of my hobby.

In fact, she actually gifted me with a 1/100 Master Grade Blitz Gundam! She also accompanies me every time I check on shops for kits. 


11. She doesn't shout at me

My biggest pet peeve? Being shouted at. No matter what the situation is, I don't want the feeling of being shouted at (and I'm sure no one would want that too), mainly because I have the tendency to mirror back actions to the person I'm dealing with. 

I don't want to shout at anyone, especially my love, as much as I don't want to get shouted at. And I'm happy she is not fond of shouting. It's almost as if she doesn't have an ounce of aggressiveness or desire to go on an offensive stance against her partner.

We haven't experienced getting into a fight yet, after 4 months of being in this relationship, but I'm glad she's sensitive and gentle enough not to raise her voice on me.


10. She is willing to give

Aside from the aforementioned Gundam Kit gift she gave me, there has been some instances where she surprised me with sweet treats. When I was still in the old office, she once surprised me with a donut, a cinnamon swirl and a pack of M&Ms from Starbucks. Just recently, she gave me a pack of kisses just because she "can't give me real kisses" in the office.

More importantly, she gives the valuable gift of time. She always tries her best to spend time with me. She would even give me a bit of her time that she could have spent on resting.

No other woman in my life has ever given me this much.


9. She does not boss me around

I've seen girls who goes bitch mode on their boyfriends. They set unrealistic expectations and demands their boyfriends to follow their every whim, under the pretense that if their boyfriends couldn't do it, they'll be dumped.

My girlfriend is definitely not like that. We are still in the norming stage of our relationship, and I believe she has her expectations, but never once did she impose something on me forcefully. She provides me the freedom to still act on my own, as long as it doesn't compromise our relationship. 


8. She is supportive despite my insecurities and fears

One of my greatest fears is to be vulnerable. It just so happens that that's exactly what's going to be like when one gets into a relationship. Once again, I won't get into detail about this (as they're truly embarrassing to share, even at this point lol), but one thing I'll tell you is that my girl has been very supportive of me, despite of these baggage.

She openly told me one time that one of the things she doesn't like about me is that I always take my insecurities out in the open. She encouraged me to be more confident about myself, as she has already embraced my being and accepted me for who I am. And she keeps on reassuring me that there's nothing to fear - that she'll always be by my side, no matter what happens.

That feeling of reassurance boosts my confidence every single day. I've come to accept myself more now than ever before. You can say that she truly turned my world upside down for good.


7. She is honest

I often ask her opinions about certain things - things relating to preferences and attitudes about certain subjects. I won't go into detail about these, but one thing I'm sure of - she's always honest about everything.

We've established honesty as one of the core values of our relationship. We made it an agreement to always be honest about what we feel and to never get into any mind games. I, personally, don't want to foster any distrust by not being true to my feelings, and I'm glad my girl shares the same sentiments.


6. She does not mind being clingy and intimate

If there's one thing I learned about my self when I got into this relationship, it's that I'm one clingy guy. I enjoy being able to kiss and hug her whenever I get the chance, and my texts are oftentimes mixed with "I miss you." It's so clingy to the point that I sound like a wussy sometimes (lol).

But my girlfriend is totally fine with it. In fact, she even claims to enjoy it. Being sweet is one of the things I enjoy doing, and it's especially apparent when I'm doing it with my partner. Even though the society (or at least, the world of dating) expects men to be...well...more manly (logical, stern, etc.), she's willing to embrace this affectionate side of me.

And for a girlfriend like her, I can only be more affectionate.


5. She has a calming presence, but makes me crazy too!

This is a bit of a contradiction. How can a girl make me feel calm, but make me feel excited at the same time? My girlfriend just happen to know how.

My girlfriend is one of those whom you'll likely to describe as calm and composed. She's not one of those overly cheery types who laughs at the top of their voice. Her calmness is one of the things I love about her, as I can feel that I can relax whenever I'm with her. This also helps whenever there's something I want to communicate with her, as she'll most often be ready to listen.

But despite this, one sweet smile from my girl is enough to make my heart beat fast. Yes, even after we're done with the courtship stage, I still feel the same dub-dub whenever I see my love's super sweet smile. Closed-lip, with eyes slightly squinted, she usually greets me with this smile after a time of not seeing each other, or whenever she's about to give me a warm hug or a breath-taking kiss. 

My girl truly knows how to give me feels.


4. She is fun to be with

Compatibility plays a major role in every relationship. It's easier for a couple to enjoy their time being together if they're having fun and share the same interests. In our case, we both enjoy "rawr-ing" and swaying while eating. We both enjoy walking around while holding each other's hands. We like the same type of food, and although she doesn't like robots that much (sorry love, I just had to mention this lol), she's more than willing to be with me as I browse through them.

Those things that I've mentioned are just the tip of the iceberg - there's so much more that we enjoy doing and doing together. It gives me a kind of comfortable feeling that there's someone in my life right now whom I can share the happiness I get from doing the things I want, and I'm glad that that person is the woman I'll be with forever. 


3. She syncs with me a lot

There is a secret, unique element in our relationship that I consider to be truly our own. We sync, and by sync, I mean that there has been a lot of instances where we think or say the same things at the same time. This happens more often whenever we order something in a restaurant, or whenever we see something that catches our attention. 

I believe this is something that transcends compatibility. We find ourselves in sheer amazement that our thoughts sync, and they sync at such impeccable timing. This makes us a lot easier to understand and feel each other, as it feels like we're seeing ourselves in each other.


2. She shares the same values as mine

In one of our conversations, I explained to her that it's very important for us to share values - values which I believe are to be the very important foundations of our relationship. I've already mentioned honesty as one of them, but there's so much more.

Among them is trust and fidelity - a commitment that we're going to be faithful to each other. We also share the value of empathy and consideration - in that we will always consider each other's feelings in every decision that we'll make. Finally, genuine concern and responsibility for each other's welfare, which becomes more evident in the way we look after each other, even though we're miles apart.

I'm happy that she already values these principles even way before we decided to be together. It makes it easy for me to know how to make her happy and how to act like a boyfriend that she truly deserves.


1. She truly loves me

In our four months of being together, I've come to know a lot about my girlfriend. Her values, her likes and dislikes, her attitudes about things...a majority of her being. There's so much more to know and love about her, and the more we spend each day of our lives together, the more I want to love her.

The best feeling about this is that my girlfriend loves me too, and she loves me so much. If you are not paying attention to all the things I've listed previously, then I suggest reading them again and find out how special she is to me, and I to her. God truly blessed me with someone who truly cares, someone who truly understands, someone who truly accepts, and someone who truly loves me.

And for this wonderful woman in my life, I am willing to give my all. I include her to my prayers all day, I share and let her be a part of my dreams and aspirations with her, and I will always do my best to give her the best experience of being in love. All for the woman who chose to give her heart to me.

I love you so much Catherine Joie. I want to spend all my days with you. I want you to know that you're special and you deserve all the love and happiness that we'll share. Thank you for always loving me. I'll keep on loving you, forever.

We're Back Online!

The previous post (my love's post) was January 3, 2014.

The date now? May 5, 2014.

It's been a good 4 months since we've last touched this blog. My transfer to another position turned out to be a disaster, and even though I wanted to write something up, I just couldn't find the time (or the right state of mind) to do so.

And too bad, my previous post actually promised of a series of entries to parallel the Simbang Gabi that we spent.

So there, we're finally back. And we're here to stay (hopefully my next job won't be a bitch).

Stay classy planet earth!

- Billy

Indistinct Heist

I can still remember it clearly - that night when a precious thing was taken from me.

I was walking down a dark alley one rainy Friday night on my way home. I decided to take that alternate route to avoid the extremely busy streets of the city. I wanted to take a hot shower and snug into the blanket so badly after a long day at work. A dim, flickering, orange street light was the only source of illumination in that noiseless back lane. I was really scared that I practically kicked a stray cat making its way out of the garbage can. Frightening thoughts were running infinitely in my head, but it was too late to go back - I had already walked a long way. I kept walking, walking briskly to get to the end of the path as soon as I can.

I was scampering as I saw the light at the end of the alley when someone grabbed me from behind. I could feel his weapon hidden somewhere in his coat. I was stunned and for some reason, I did not ward him off.  Astoundingly, I relished the feeling of being held by this complete stranger. He has this familiar touch I could not resist. I tried to catch a glimpse of his face but it was completely covered. I was able to see his eyes though - those alluring eyes.

He hauled me into the bright part of the alley then distanced himself to mine. I was confused. I did not know what he was up to, but I was preoccupied by my longing for his warmth. In my mind, I wanted him to take few steps closer, closer to where I was standing (God! I was putting myself into so much trouble!). My brain waves might have affected him as he did walk towards me.

I was too damn sure it was a hold up though. He reached out for his weapon inside his coat, and then showed it to me. I was caught off guard. I was astonished. It made me surrender. It made me wanna run, run in his getaway car... with him.

He escorted me into his car and took me to places I've never been into (Okay, now he had me as his hostage!). For every place we visited, he would remove a portion of his face’s covering. Gradually, I was able to see through him and I found myself enjoying his company.

What he put me into was a different kind of criminal act, an unconventional way of performing a hold up, a divergent method of hostage-taking. He had his devotion for me as his weapon, and he wanted my heart in return. No threats, no harassment, no violence. It was then that I realized that I was a willing victim. I got my hands up the moment he held me; I was addicted to the danger of his touch. It occurred to me that I’m willing to be his hostage... for the rest of my life.

Here's a super rough draft of the culprit btw. Hahaha! :p (Forgive the messy portion, my eraser's hiding from me!)

P.S. I got him as my victim too :p

Stay happy, beautiful people!

~Kakat :)